Why should I heal my inner child?

So, what is your inner child?

Its the child or various younger versions of ourselves within each one of us that experienced events and situations that caused us to feel something. The child that experienced that event created a meaning and a belief and years later we find that we are still behaving in reaction to a particular event or series of events...

Because of the nature of being human each and every one of us reacts differently to events and situations, some of us managing to work through those emotions better than others at the time, some of us holding on to beliefs from those events, some of us reacting to those with behaviours. We are all different and will react differently so there is no “one size fits all” reaction to a particular event. Some inner children are happy and feel free and connected to us as adults, some do not.

Sometimes as a reaction to the pain we have experienced, we shut that younger version of us that experienced that away. We lock those feelings down - shut them up in a dark room somewhere buried in your subconscious, somewhere in your energy body, where you hope they can't cause you a day to day reminder of that pain.. Unfortunately even though we hope to ignore those feelings, they tend to grow and fester and don’t leave us at all. They manifest as issues in our adult life. As Anxiety, as insecurity, as limiting beliefs or behaviours like addiction, or anger.

That pain doesn’t go away when we push it deeper within us, it grows more entwined into every experience we have as adults. It stays there silently affecting everything we experience until one day we start to ask the question: "Why am I behaving like this" , “Why am I feeling this way?”, “ Why am I depressed?”, “ Why am I anxious?” And until something breaks within us or we can't cope any longer we don't even know that we've got that poor little girl or boy stuck in there, still hurting.

However so many people fear unlocking the pain they felt so many years ago that it prevents them from letting that poor inner child out of its dark room. The ask themselves: “what will happen if i let him or her out?” “how will I feel?”, “ Oh no I can’t do it.. I’m too scared to bring that up… “

Working with your inner child doesn’t have to be a bad experience. Giving that little child who was bullied or that little child who was abused a chance to get out of that locked room somewhere deep down in your energy body is what they deserve. They deserve to be set free - and so do you. They deserve to be loved and cared for like they weren’t when they were that child.

So why wouldn’t you give yourself that freedom, that relief? If you think you’re issues are just going to go away with out dealing with them - think again. Why do you think you are experiencing pain in your adult life? Why do you think you are having trouble being loved in your relationships? Why do you think you are having trouble dealing with your emotions - because you have unfinished business. And what is unfinished business? Its unfinished.

When I first heard of the inner child I was just starting my therapy journey. I didn’t really understand what my therapist was talking about - “I think there’s a small girl still stuck somewhere within you”... through the course of that work it emerged and my understanding grew. It grew to the extent that I became fascinated with healing of our younger selves and letting go of past events that are blocking our own development and enjoyment in this world.

Marisa Peer recognised this when she developed RTT and yes - even though its not the only therapy that works with the inner child, RTT has a brilliantly effective way of helping that child and giving that child the love it always needed so that you can it can move on. So that you can move on. One of the reasons I became a Rapid Transformational Therapist is so i can help people heal their inner child on a daily basis. A few years on in my own journey and I hypnotise myself regularly when issues come up just to see what’s lurking in my subconscious mind - just to let it go.. And there’s always another version of that little girl who has internalised some meaning I attached to some event or another.. I love dealing with it now. Better out than stuck in!

Once you become aware of the inner child at work, then you can take action and give it the love it needs so it can stop hurting and start living alongside you. There are so many stages to a journey of transformation and in some senses it never stops - This is a journey, our life is a journey - so why don’t we keep up with it and let go of the past so we actually live in the present - fully live in the experience of our lives right now rather than allowing events from our past to stop us enjoying it? Yes ... just when you think its all over and all out - you discover there's a there's a door to a dark room that was closed a long time ago with a small child inside that needs to be hugged and loved and brought out of that room - but now when I realise that there’s a small girl locked in a room, I can’t wait to get her out and save her. She deserves to be saved. She deserves to have a chance at a real life a life of love, a life of enjoyment a life of peace.

Try this free hypnosis to help you heal your inner child, however if you have experienced severe trauma as a child then I recommend that you consider Rapid Transformational Therapy with me which can help you deal with your experiences on a more personal level.